Serving online can be tricky. While most methods of psychological domination are quite internet-friendly, something critical is often lost. We rely heavily on nonverbal communication, tone, and our physical reactions to others in order to form a connection. And if outright financial servitude isn’t for you, it can be tricky to know what you need from your Domme. So how do you serve online when you don’t know what to do?
If you’ve spent any amount of time in online D/s interactions or relationships, you might have looked up “list of submissive tasks” or “how to serve a dom/me online” or something similar. Idea listicles abound, but do any of them really resonate?
The key is not the task — it’s the devotion. When devotion is present, any task I give is thrilling and erotic, no matter how weird or mundane it might seem. The smallest thing feels like service when it comes from a place of dedication. So…. what does devotion look like?
Devotion is not empty words
It’s not exactly a secret: we Dommes are cocky. We’re aware of our striking looks and commanding presences.
This isn’t to say that you shouldn’t compliment your Domme. In fact, that’s kind of a given. That’s why it’s not enough to simply throw out a compliment and hope it proves your worth.
Devotion is not being a sycophant
You don’t have to agree with everything I do. You don’t have to do everything I say. A perfectly obedient pet with no thoughts or personality of his own quickly gets dull.
Devotion does not feed the ego
The mind at its basic level is constantly wanting, wanting, wanting. The mind of a well-trained sub simply waits without letting their desires make them demanding.
Devotion may go unnoticed when it’s too quiet…
Your Domme may not know all the little things you do to serve Her. All the little adjustments you make. The effort you put in to please when it’s especially hard to fulfill a request. Don’t be too shy to come in for a well-earned head pat.
…But devotion does not have to be loud.
Similarly, don’t think that a show of adoration has to be a grandiose gesture every single time. Work with what you have.
So what is it, then?
Devotion comes from genuine feeling. It comes without expectation of praise or reward. It works in small ways, in your habits and everyday actions. It’s in the details, and it shows itself in the tiniest ways. Once you find it, it becomes easy to serve online.
P.S. If you want to get some real-world practice with online service, get Learn to Serve and play my PTV game.